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Comparison mode has a way of creeping up

Jun 4, 2019 | Personal - development

Comparison mode has a way of creeping up without me noticing, every so often.
I wanted to recognize it so I can acknowledge it and move it aside….
Although I thrive on Team for accountability, momentum and excitement in so many areas of my life, there is a fine line that gets crossed from inspiration to comparison.

Ex: I had a rough time rallying to start my competition season, so I put up pictures around the kitchen of one of my role models to kick me into gear, and stop the crazy snacking.
It helped for a little, then soon I noticed I was feeling more negative than positive when I saw the pictures in my pantry, outside my pantry, on the fridge, IN the fridge.
Cara Volpicelli Fitness told me to put up pics of me instead. 🤯 Although awkward initially, it made sense:
I can never be like anyone else, so why set myself up for failure? I can only be the next best version of myself. My only competition is my old self.
“No one does you better than YOU.”- Lisa Nichols.
Be yourself. Everyone else is taken.

What do you do to get yourself out of comparison mode so you can experience more joy?

Constant comparison. Negative self talk. Thinking everyone else had it together while I was falling apart. Being my worst critic. Focusing on lack. Giving up on myself, my health, my happiness, my dreams since what I was doing wasn’t working. Settling for mediocrity. Letting myself go. Allowing the fire 🔥 within me to go out.

You know what I got good at? Keeping my misalignment to myself. Feeling alone. Smiling in public but lashing out on my loved ones in private, hoping it would somehow make me feel better. I didn’t know how to be happy for someone without being jealous of them.
I didn’t realize the way I felt about myself was impacting my family.
I didn’t realize that because I couldn’t see the good in me, I couldn’t see the good in others.

Feeling like I hit rock bottom, I needed to break the cycle…..
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